The whole wide world of recovery is here to join you on your journey.
I used to think of recovery as something I did after a long run or a vigorous week of workouts. However, recovery is not just about physical rejuvenation—I've come to learn that it's a profound journey that extends into many aspects of our lives. When we think of recovery related to substance use, our primary focus often lies on the person that we love who is struggling with their addiction. We all yearn for them to find freedom from their battle, to emerge victorious over the chains of dependency.
But do either of those recovery definitions above ring true for you? Have you ever considered the possibility of your own recovery from the impact of substance use in your relationships? As a support person —whether you're a family member, friend, or colleague — you play a crucial role in the recovery journey of your loved one. This role, however, comes with its own set of challenges, including the uncertainty, fear, and emotional turmoil that addiction brings into relationships — and it also comes with opportunities to improve communications, practice compassion, and restore relationships.
September is the perfect time of year to revisit what recovery means to you. Of course, many of us can't wait for sweater weather and fall festivals, but we also get to celebrate National Recovery Month! This happens each September to promote and support new evidence-based treatment and recovery practices, strong and proud recovery communities everywhere, and the dedication of so many people and organizations who make recovery in all its forms possible.
I admit that the concept of finding my own recovery as a family member was a foreign concept and I didn't really think recovery applied to my situation. Since discovering my own recovery as a family member, I can assure you that it has been an essential part of my healing journey.
I'm often asked by family members what their own recovery journey may look like, and it can include many different pathways. Here are a few ideas:
Prayer, meditation or other spiritual practice
Rediscover an old hobby or finding a new one (I recently put my hands to the test - literally - throwing pottery on a wheel)
Physical exercise of any sort – gardening, hiking, canoeing, strength training – just move your body!
Educate yourself about the neuroscience of addiction, or what early recovery from substance use looks like in your loved one (workshops, books, and podcasts abound on this topic)
Get together with a friend or other social involvement through volunteering or club activities to keep you in connection with others, versus the isolation that can offer occur when addiction is present
See a therapist, coach, or counselor to help you work through the impact that addiction has had on your life
Celebrate your wins and milestones by keeping a record or journaling
Find a recovery event near you this month. Common events include recovery walks, recovery-themed sporting activities, and family-themed events.
Regardless of the path your loved one takes — whether they achieve their recovery or continue to struggle — you, too, are deserving of recovery. Recovery is not a solitary journey; it’s about finding the resources, support, and guidance that can help you take the next steps toward your own well-being.
If you need advice or more guidance, let me connect you with resources that can support you in this process. Like I always say, you don't have to go it alone.